05 April 2009 @ 18:06
Abhorrent laws  

"Abhorrent" is the word that President Barack Obama used to describe the new Afghan law that denies women certain extremely basic rights, such as the right to leave their houses on a whim, or the right to decline to have sex with their husbands. This law would, in effect, place all Afghan women under a particularly malign form of house arrest in which their captors would be permitted to rape them with impunity.

I have to agree with Obama here; abhorrent is definitely the word for it. And while we're on the subject of abhorrent laws, it is perhaps worth noting that in many states in Obama's own country, spousal rape has been outlawed only quite recently—1993 in the case of North Carolina, to take one example. Even now that spousal rape is illegal throughout the United States, it is still the case in many states that a woman who has been sexually assaulted by her husband has less recourse to legal protection than one who has been assaulted by a stranger. In some cases, the period during which such an assault can be reported is shorter; in some, a narrower range of unwanted sexual contact is prohibited; in some, the standard for demonstrating that force was used is stricter.

I think that this, too, is abhorrent. I suppose the idea behind these laws is that a husband has some cause to expect that his wife will consent to have sex with him—but then surely a wife has some right to expect that her husband will not assault her, and isn't this a rather more important right? And, of course, these laws are different from the Afghan law in their gender-neutral reference to spouses—in general, they give a wife just as much latitude to sexually assault her husband as they give him to assault her. But this is not, I think, the sort of equality that does anyone any good.

Abhorrent is the only word for it. I hope that with all the moral outrage going around, there's enough there to fix more than just the Afghan law.

 
 
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Artemis Hunting: love and devotioncutiepi314 on 6. April, 2009 17:42 (UTC)
Not related to Afghan laws but relevant maybe to US laws
I don't condone it at all (I think violence is just terrible), but it is extremely sad that acquaintance rape is one of the hardest things to prove. Sometimes these victims were drunk, drugged, or feel so manipulated that they can't articulate their arguments. To be fair, if I were a jury member, I could not get myself to convict someone unless I knew with absolute certainty that the defendant had done it. I would hate to see a victim feel that he or she couldn't even feel safe, but at the same time, I would hate to put an innocent person in jail.

It's really sad because in many circumstances, the victims knows his or her assailant (class-mate, that evening's date, intimate partner, whatever). Back when I was in elementary school, our teachers focused a good amount of time teaching us to express what we feel are safe boundaries. We learned that it was OK to tell a friend or an adult, "I don't like being touched this way." It could be an inappropriate hug or a too strong punch in the arm. At the public schools around here, instead of now teaching this, they just make rules saying that they cannot touch in schools. This makes me sad because I think a lot of this can be prevented with strong communication. You should feel comfortable telling your date, "Stop, you are assaulting me," or "I like holding hands with you."
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